A Little Background

My Foray Into Discussing The Subjects of Intimacy, Dating & Relationships

Having been brought up in the Bible Belt under Christian practices, I was taught to fear sex. I was certain that God would send me straight to Hell for it - or for anything human I did or thought about. I was still young when I recognized the hypocrisy of everything that I was brought up in, and I started to question what I was being exposed to. 

A gradual move across the US, prompted early by a toxic family situation, took me to Hollywood by the time I was 19. I enjoyed psychology and storytelling, so the decision to be an actress seemed natural to me. However, it didn't take long before I realized that I couldn't live off the wages I made as an unemployed actress and underage nightclub hostess. With an incomplete college education, no work experience, and nobody to turn to for support, I had no choice but to learn how to survive.

That's when I met someone who would introduce me to the (mild side of) adult entertainment. I was essentially instructed to sell my Bible and invest in a pair of stilettos. I did, and my life was forever changed.

My experience would span many facets of the entertainment industry, but several years into it, my attitudes towards what I had to do to survive changed. I became genuinely fascinated with human behavior and our psyche as they related to sex. I became interested in the culture behind it, the social story it had to tell, and I knew there was some greater calling for me to encourage the examination of our attitudes. 

God, by the way, was going to have to get over it. I began to understand sexuality as a complex, fascinating, natural thing, and while it could easily be abused, embracing it intelligently was nothing to be ashamed of. 

Sex was everywhere - barraging the daily lives of everybody on conscious and unconscious levels. As I became increasingly aware of this, I began to appreciate just how greatly it affected us, and I wanted to explore it in greater depth. What did it all really mean and why? I have always been insatiably curious.

As I continued to work part time in the industry (while balancing it with 'real' work), it occurred to me that we, as a culture, have a great need to assertively address some critical issues relating to our perceptions of sex and intimacy. 

Throughout my industry exposure, I had gathered some incredibly unique and highly valuable perspectives on sexuality and relationships. I had spent years of my time talking to a countless number of people from all walks of life about their most intimate thoughts, their most private moments, their relationship issues, their insecurities, their wishes and I asked a lot of 'why'? I considered myself fortunate for the great lessons they taught me. 

It became my mission to help. I wanted nothing more than to bring much needed discussion to the table. I wanted to encourage people to examine their ideals and standards, to question their practices, to broaden their understanding of one of the driving forces in our lives, and to live healthier, happier lives, in general - all by having a better grasp of our sexualities. 

My life from small town Bible school student to big city sex symbol was unusual, and, at many times, deeply difficult. It has also been vibrant, surreal and, in some ways, rather blessed. The best results can sometimes come out of the most challenging situations. I look forward to sharing with others the valuable lessons that have been shared with me.   

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